The She-Posal

Engagement Season 2021
The Year
Of
The She-Posal

​2020 meant many things to many different people.  We all have lost.  We have all seen in some way through new eyes a new life for ourselves.  Whichever way your path has taken you this past year, it is clear that no matter your political, religious, or personal views about today’s, yesterday’s or tomorrow’s issues, the thing that makes people move with more urgency than ever before has not changed…..love.   
Feeling that earth shattering moment when you realize that you can’t imagine another sun coming up or going down unless you make this person your partner for life is as old as time.  The desperate breathlessness of the preparation, the countless hours of time and listening to unsolicited advice to find just the right ring, the nervous knots in the belly hoping for a yes and that is just what men go through. The classic proposal involves a man proposing to a woman on one knee with a diamond ring to close the deal.  What about when she proposes?  
Whoa!  That’s a whole new ballgame!  Can we still call it a proposal? No?  I agree.  When a woman feels confident enough in her everlasting happily ever after enough to get down on one knee herself and make it official, we call that a She-posal!  As professional ambassadors of amore. It’s our duty to make sure she is prepared.  

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1. The Leap
How does your man feel about marriage?  Do you feel in your heart he will say yes if you ask?  This is a very important question as there will be a lot of time and feelings involved in this mission and your emotional exposure will be at it’s highest.  So, this may not be the time to ask the boyfriend of several months who just cheated because maybe it will calm his wild ways.  This is more for the boyfriend with whom cohabitation is an understatement.  You already share everything, including only yourselves with each other, for a few years now, and the idea of settling down is becoming more and more apart of the everyday conversations.    

2.  The Token
Once you are sure a marriage proposal has the green light, the next most important thing to consider is the token to seal the deal.  Notice I didn’t say a diamond ring to seal the deal?  That is because your man may not be the diamond ring type.  He maybe the wristwatch, wallet, earring, or cufflink type, all A+ tokens to choose from.  Check out his accessories for clues of his style and match as closely as you can to maximize the chances of choosing the perfect token of love for your king.  Asking his parents for his hand may not only score you big, big points but may also lead you to a family heirloom token that is vintage and would engage the entire family in full support of your new love journey.  One unique idea we saw last year we simply cannot forget, our now engaged bride has a tattoo type of guy, she got the phrase will you marry me ________? Tattooed on the bottom of her feet then expose it to him in their pool while relaxing on floaties. When he said yes, they made another trip back to insert his name.  Whatever token you choose make sure it represents him. 


3. The She-Posal
Here’s a no brainer.  Do it in a way that is comfortable for you both.  It will be nerve wracking enough just asking the question without the theatrics of some grand scheme that will totally distract from the reason for the season.  Here are some avenues you might want to travel together….

Holiday She-Posal
For the most perfectly timed public she-posal, make your man the center of attention and pop the question at Thanksgiving.  With all your family and friends gathered, wait until it is time to go around the table and say what you are thankful for.  Begin with being thankful for your life, family, the food, and the day, then conclude with being most thankful for your boo, present your token and pop the question.  Your unexpected words of gratitude will make him see you in a different light as you culminate your entire relationship as one blessing, in a thankful prayer, right before his eyes.  His yes will soon follow.  
If your guy shies away from the limelight, create a private,  “baby it’s cold outside”    “Let it snow”   romantic Christmas vibe.  Get dressed in a pair of pajamas. You wear the top and he wears the bottoms.  Get cozy and celebrate your holiday nestled together under the tree.  Present your token as your gift and ask the quiet question that leads to the rest of your lives.  The calm and cozy demeanor in which you handled the event will show him you really know his heart and how he feels most comfortable expressing his love which will easily flow from his heart beginning with yes. 

Vaycay or Staycay She-posal
Are you both vaccinated?  Ready to bust out in the world again?  Have your passport ready?  Set?  Let’s go!  Paris, London, Texas or California.  The sky is the limit.  Your proposal can have any background from the mountains in Colorado to the Swamps in Louisiana!  Traveling together is always a great way to bond closer.  The experiences couples have while traveling abroad or domestically become some of the greatest stories told over dinner parties, birthdays and wedding receptions.  Most seasoned traveling couples have a travel routine.  Whether it be you pack and inventory before each departure and upon each arrival and he does the itinerary or you plan the activities and he stocks the emergency kit with bug spray and alcoholic wipes.  Make sure you bring your token along as this is a great time to surprise your future someone.  Pack the token in the picnic basket or slide it in the emergency kit that he will find when he goes for the bug spray.  The story of how he found his token in the bottom of the emergency kit, after being stung by a bee, then you she-posed as you injected his EpiPen, is one that will live long enough for your great grand kids to hear.  

Are you both still in quarantine?  Not really ready to open up to the world just yet?  Netflix & Chill?  My thoughts exactly.  In fact, five words, linen, china, candles, food and Slay! Abracadabra! A she-posal is born.  Dress your table with that beautiful textured tablecloth you only use for company.  Tall, tapered candles to catch the fire in his eyes, perfection!  The “good” China, you only use on Thanksgiving and Christmas, when it’s your year to host.  His favorite dress, you know the one he always compliments you on, like it’s the first time he’s seen it, every time.  The perfect accessories to match and you are almost ready.  Instead of the fancy six course meal that takes you all day in the hot kitchen and your attention away from him, order from his favorite restaurant and eat as if you were out on the town in your own living room.  Present your token over dessert, and he will be absolutely blown away as he realizes that the delicate and intricate preparational procedures that he has seen you preform countless of times for other people, this time, are all for him.  Soon he will say yes and give his all to you forever.  

Popping the question is a big deal no matter who does the proposing or who accepts it.  It can be nerve wracking, downright scary and has the potential to be the most embarrassing moment of your life if the answer is no.  On the other, more attractive hand, planned just right with just enough personal touches to make it your own, popping the question can be the most rewarding investment in your future happiness that you can ever make.  For assistance with your she-posal, contact head designer, Consuelo Bradley, for great Alabama backgrounds and style ideas today.